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Re: “How can one recognize a sapiosexual at first sight?”

You can’t. You’ll recognize a sapiosexual when they identify themselves as such. Worthy of note is that when someone makes that claim, they are trying to influence your perception of their own intelligence. At best, it’s driven by youthful naïveté, but it’s  pretentious snobbery at worst , and at its highest likelihood. This is because “sapiosexuality”,  in the context of sexual orientations ,  doesn’t make sense. It’s akin to calling your self a psilósexual because you are attracted to people taller than you. It’s just a trait. And a markedly subjective one, at that. You’re unlikely to find someone treating their preference for taller folks as a sexuality. Just like if you speak to a man who says he prefers brunette women over blondes, he’s unlikely to create a sexuality around it because there’s no social currency to be won by doing so. The APA defines sexual orientation  as “an enduring pattern of emotional, romantic, and/or sexual attractions to men, women, or both sexes" and

Re: “Is it normal to wear a mask because it is a comfort item for you? My mom thinks there is something wrong with me.”

Let’s just get this out-of-the-way:   There is nothing “wrong” with you! There are several valid reasons to wear a mask at any given time. In my own case, some people may find it strange to see me wearing my mask  outside  during the spring and summer. If they knew me, they would know that I discovered the KN95 ito be a really effective way to control my allergy symptoms— something I would not have even thought of pre-pandemic. This is a case where the behavior is what’s called “adaptive“.   Adaptive   behaviors are the ways we interact with our environment that ease anxiety without interfering with our ability to function.  Maladaptive   behaviors are ones we do for the same reasons as adaptive behaviors, but are more harmful to us than helpful (often not helpful at all). Maladaptive behaviors interfere with our ability to function in society. In some cases, maladaptive behavior can affect the people around us negatively. I think what you may be asking is whether wearing a mask, in YO